Our Life (Update 2)

Only 84 days left until the wedding. Even though I feel like we’re married already I still get anxious when I think about how close we are. As far as decision making or responsibilities go, for this, I have none… except to show up. All that really matters to me is Blue Jay being there. […] Read more

Independence and the ADA

I remember when Bear came to Chicago. I went grocery shopping pretty much every day in my single life. There were numerous reasons for this: I lived less than a block from it, I couldn’t take a car so I had to make sure I didn’t get too much at one time making it impossible […] Read more

A Word on Caregivers

  Personal assistant (PA), personal care attendants, caregivers, mom and dad, most aggravating person in the world; whatever the situation may be, the person who helps you live your day-to-day life deserves a HUGE thank you. Becoming independent for a person with a disability may be more difficult and more painfully annoying than having all […] Read more

Nursing Home Stories: Part I

If you’ve read my previous post about how I went to Chicago to meet my now fiance, Blue Jay, you know that part of my plan was to admit myself into a nursing home there. Looking back, I can’t help but have that “what were you thinking” look on my face when I think about […] Read more

The Disabled Struggle

Today is a day where you say, “It’s just been one of those days.” You know what I’m talking about… a day where all your problems seem to pile up suddenly or something happens that makes you think of all the wrongs going on in the world. Today has been one of those days. It […] Read more

Couple of Good Lookin’ Folks!

Click to see our engagement pics! We are super happy to be showing everyone our engagement pics! They were done months ago but couldn’t release them until our save-the-dates were out. As we get closer and closer to this wedding, I am getting more and more excited! Soon I’ll be marrying the only person in […] Read more

We Are Family!

The holidays are over! It’s a bittersweet moment in the Bear and Blue Jay household. Festivities are over and family has left but some sense of normalcy has returned and we have a new year with new hopes and goals. We can legitimately call it a household now because we have officially increased our ranks […] Read more


My mind is a plethora of thoughts. This whole week I haven’t had any idea what was going on. Things are happening so fast I don’t have time to process. I have no idea what to tell you right now without bringing politics into the conversation… Syrians are people! Ok…anyway… Bear and I have decided […] Read more

Our Life (Update 1)

Our wedding! The wedding of Bear and I is May 14th of next year. That is only seven months away. Really, it’s six months away and fifteen days. I am so freaked. I don’t plan anything; I just do it. If it’s something I don’t wish to do; I just don’t do it… Luckily my […] Read more